Did you know that what you think directly impacts the state of your well-being? When you are not feeling well, whether experiencing something innocuous like a case of the sniffles, or you are coping with something more intense like a chronic disease, how your day unfolds has everything to do with how you relate to your undesired experience.
I used to think and whole heartedly believe, especially since my training has been steeped in “talking about our feelings”, that it was necessary to vent and be acutely aware of how we are feeling, and thus speak specifically about our experience in order to release it. I have come to see that this practice, not only perpetuates our negative physical experience, it also encourages us to think and speak of nothing else. What we think about, we bring about.
If this is true, then how do we stop this seemingly never halting train of undesired feelings? First, we must come to believe that thinking negatively, or as realists may argue, truthfully, will never derail the Negative Train. In order to feel better, we have to implore ourselves to find a better feeling thought.
For instance, ponder and reminisce about the last good time you experienced. Replay the events, pay attention particularly to how you were feeling, then reach for that same feeling even if you are not in the same circumstance. Push yourself to go to another place in your mind than where the Negative Train is currently steering you. Believe that you are in control of your thoughts and know that they do not own you. Fortify yourself with reasons to be happy, if the only thing you can find is that you live in such a beautiful part of the country. Go for that thought instead. Be willing to give up your resistance to ruminating on your negative situation. Consider that your bad day is one that many others would gladly trade places with you. Once you begin to shift even slightly from an undesired feeling to a slightly more preferable feeling, take a moment to see how this change is positively impacting your physical well-being.
Elizabeth Scarcella is a Holistic Counselor with a Masters degree in counseling. Elizabeth helps clients with a range of digestive and other ailments, including irritable bowel syndrome, colitis, Crohn’s disease, chronic constipation and diarrhea, traumatic and abusive past, insomnia, fatigue, anxiety, emotional eating, self-esteem and success issues. She is available for private or group sessions. Visit www.livewellclinic.org or call 760-771-5970 to schedule your appointment.